I'm getting to know an Aquarius man and I'm feeling a little wind-swept and puzzled. You all have been so wonderful in assisting me in the past. Maybe you all can give me some insight and advice Reading about Aquarius it says they are unemotional. I realize there is an entire birth chart to take into account (sry not sure of birth time). He's January 31st 1980 and I'm March 14th 1991. But I've been doing some research and I see many women's experiences saying they declare love very quickly and fall out of love even quicker. As a Pisces I want my fairytale romance so this looks like a road to disappointment. I'm wondering how a Pisces could make it work with Aquarius given all their differences.
Here's the background:
I've spoken only a handful of times to this Aquarius man. Initially we had small talk...career, goals, past relationships. He immediately gravitated toward past relationships, how many partners I've had, etc. I wanted to see how far he would take the conversation so instead of elaborating I just answered his questions directly. He thought I was put off and changed the topic, apologized, and we said goodnight. The next night he texted me. I was a little worried he wanted a FWB although I told him I'm not looking for anything serious just friendship and if it develops from there neat-o. I chose not to respond until the next day only to tell him I was sleeping and hoped he had a good night. He responded. We did not talk again for a while. I reached out to him last night. That's when things got a little strange for me.
He was traveling for work. We text back and forth for a bit. Just small talk. He seemed a bit lonely - he does travel a lot. I let him know he was lonely but not alone because I was hanging out with him. He simply thanked me and we continued chatting. He said he really wished he could be with me instead of traveling. I told him to close his eyes and I was with him. He said he felt like crying and apologized for getting choked up. He said he was glad we were texting instead of talking. I told him I thought it was romantic that he can express his feelings. He said he's usually the tough guy. I told him the tough guys always have the biggest heart. He said he wanted to hug me so tight. I told him I knew the feeling. He told me he felt pain from being away but didn't want the feeling to end.
He said he never felt that way about anyone even when he had a physical relation. Though I don't believe him I said I did and told him our connection was different and I was glad to know him. I want to trust him but can't bring myself to do it. He was basically saying that he was falling in love for the first time. Hard to believe. He's had around 15 partners for casual sex, but only 2 short serious relationships. I on the other hand have only had 1 long term serious relationship. I'm also younger. He was born in 1980 and I in 1991. So I think if anyone's going to go head over heels it's me. Especially if Aquarius is so emotionally unavailable.
Immediately after his declaration and my response he said people are so complex, he loves this feeling, and he wants to be with me. He said he's delighted to find me. Then cut off the conversation and told me to take care. So I said thanks you as well. I was like ummm...right back at ya. lol
To my surprise 2 hours later he sent me a message apologizing for cutting off the conversation before he had fallen in love with me. He used the "l" word. My wall went WAY up. I told him it's okay he has other things to do and told him I didn't think he was falling in love. Told him infatuation or smitten - maybe but my head was screaming, "LIAR!" He said I shouldn't apologize as I am so nice and kind. He said he doesn't know what we call it he's getting used to me and he loves the feeling.
Initially, I was like this liar is trying to dupe me and thinks I need love to agree to sex. After researching other's experiences I'm not so certain. I doubt he was actually busy. Perhaps he was embarrassed by showing his emotions so he distanced himself? I feel his next response was also emotional so maybe he can't handle his emotions? Hard to read him. What do you all think. Should I give him a chance?
Honestly, I've had 1 serious relationship but it was back in high school/early twenties. Since then I met a married man I cared for deeply, he reciprocated, but I told him I couldn't sleep with him or pursue any relationship since he's married. I've met a few others but they just didn't stir any passion. This Aquarius feels like a long lost friend. We enjoy talking with each other. He's definitely more loquacious and a more active listener than the Pisces and Capricorn men I had feelings for. But I'm worried because he's going too fast. He said if I Aqua wants to be independent, Pisces wants to merge. I'd like him to know me before he gets too crazy. But then I realize he's Aqua - he develops himself into a new person practically when he explores new ideas, people, etc. So I'll always be constantly falling in love with the new him. I'm always growing and changing so I'm worried him being a Fixed sign he might not like that in the long term. Plus I'm a Pisces Sun/Moon Cancer Asc. so I think I'll smother him although I have an Aries venus and Mars/Mercury in Gemini.
If nearly falling in love and declaring the "L" word was enough for him to distance himself it makes me weary to try b/c I know one day I may care deeply and want him to smother me with affection and declarations. From what I've read and seen so far he is uncomfortable with this. But I wanted him to take it slow so I feel like I'm back and forth on this. Plus I'm not sure if I'd consider Aquas emotionally sensitive, unavailable, or just plain immature. But I have a feeling the first disagreement we have will result in him shutting down. Or if I get emotional he won't know how to handle it other than running away. Since he's fixed I'm not sure if that means it'd be forever.
Penny for your thoughts?